What Should a Dad Do?

Fathers are often thought of as providers.

'But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.' 

- 1 Timothy 5:8

There are different ways to provide.

Financial and Material

'Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. '

- Matthew 6:31-33

Love

'As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him. ' 

- Psalm 103:13

Spiritual Guidance

'You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.'

- Deuteronomy 6:5-7

The Heavenly Father provided what we needed most.

'but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.'

- Romans 5:8

Everyone can provide something.

'But if anyone does not provide for his relatives…

- 1 Timothy 5:8

'And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’

- Matthew 22:39

A father should be responsible for his family.

'The righteous who walks in his integrity— blessed are his children after him! '

- Proverbs 20:7, ESV

Table Talk - What’s on the Menu?

4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

- Deuteronomy 6:4-9, ESV

Set the Table: What You Prioritize Gets Repeated.

These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children... talk about them when you sit at home…

- Deuteronomy 6:6-7, NIV

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

- Proverbs 22:6, ESV

Watch the Portions: What You Model Gets Multiplied.

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.

- Deuteronomy 6:5

What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

- Philippians 4:9

Clear the Table: Not Everything Deserves a Seat.

You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

- Deuteronomy 6:4-9

15 And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

- Joshua 24:15

Pardon Our Progress - Grace at Work

3 I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, 4 always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy, 5 because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now. 6 And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.

- Philippians 1:3-6

Don’t confuse incomplete with insecure.

6 And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.

- Philippians 1:6

9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

- 2 Corinthians 12:9

Delayed doesn’t mean deserted.

5 because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now. - Philippians 1:5

Grace doesn’t mean you’re done, it means you belong.

7 It is right for me to feel this way about all of you, since I have you in my heart and, whether I am in chains or defending and confirming the gospel, all of you share in God’s grace with me. 8 God can testify how I long for all of you with the affection of Christ Jesus.

- Philippians 1:7

Through Ages and Stages

'Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”' - Ephesians 6:1-3

The way we relate to our parents changes over the course of our lives.

It can be hard to adapt to different seasons and situations.

Jesus chose to honor the Father even when it was hard.

'Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.' - Ephesians 5:1-2

'Then he said to them, “My soul is very sorrowful, even to death; remain here, and watch with me.” And going a little farther he fell on his face and prayed, saying, “My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.”' - Matthew 26:38-39

Choose honor when you relate: evaluate, consider the weight, then add grace to the plate.

“Honor your father and mother…” - Ephesians 6:2

'“Honor your father and your mother…' - Exodus 20:12

'Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children.” - Ephesians 5:1

God blesses us when we bless our parents.

“Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”' - Ephesians 6:2-3

The Love That Releases - When Love Becomes Sacrifice

Now a man of the tribe of Levi married a Levite woman, 2 and she became pregnant and gave birth to a son. When she saw that he was a fine child, she hid him for three months. 3 But when she could hide him no longer, she got a papyrus basket for him and coated it with tar and pitch. Then she placed the child in it and put it among the reeds along the bank of the Nile. 4 His sister stood at a distance to see what would happen to him. 5 Then Pharaoh’s daughter went down to the Nile to bathe, and her attendants were walking along the riverbank. She saw the basket among the reeds and sent her female slave to get it. 6 She opened it and saw the baby. He was crying, and she felt sorry for him. “This is one of the Hebrew babies,” she said. 7 Then his sister asked Pharaoh’s daughter, “Shall I go and get one of the Hebrew women to nurse the baby for you?” 8 “Yes, go,” she answered. So the girl went and got the baby’s mother. 9 Pharaoh’s daughter said to her, “Take this baby and nurse him for me, and I will pay you.” So the woman took the baby and nursed him. 10 When the child grew older, she took him to Pharaoh’s daughter and he became her son. She named him Moses, saying, “I drew him out of the water.” - Exodus 2:1-10, NIV

Love releases what it’s not called to change.

3 But when she could hide him no longer, she got a papyrus basket for him and coated it with tar and pitch. Then she placed the child in it and put it among the reeds along the bank of the Nile - Exodus 2:3

Love watches without withdrawing.

4 His sister stood at a distance to see what would happen to him. - Exodus 2:4

Love trusts God to return what’s released.

Pharaoh’s daughter said to her, “Take this baby and nurse him for me, and I will pay you.” So the woman took the baby and nursed him. - Exodus 2:9